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Validation: How the Skill Set That Revolutionized Psychology Will Transform Your Relationships, Increase Your Influence, and Change Your Life: Fleck PhD, Caroline: 9780593541210: Amazon.com: Books
Validation: How the Skill Set That Revolutionized Psychology Will Transform Your Relationships, Increase Your Influence, and Change Your Life: Fleck PhD, Caroline: 9780593541210: Amazon.com: Books
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Nick on X: "when buddhists say attachment they mean tanha, a specific subtle clenching action. Attachment is the closest English word we have, but it’s a terrible translation. Getting attached to say a significant other or a job may vastly decrease clenching, esp if fomo is your vice" / Twitter
Nick on X: "when buddhists say attachment they mean tanha, a specific subtle clenching action. Attachment is the closest English word we have, but it’s a terrible translation. Getting attached to say a significant other or a job may vastly decrease clenching, esp if fomo is your vice" / Twitter
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Nick on X: "when buddhists say attachment they mean tanha, a specific subtle clenching action. Attachment is the closest English word we have, but it’s a terrible translation. Getting attached to say a significant other or a job may vastly decrease clenching, esp if fomo is your vice" / Twitter
Buffalo for the Broken Heart: Restoring Life to a Black Hills Ranch: O'Brien, Dan: 9780375761393: Amazon.com: Books
Buffalo for the Broken Heart: Restoring Life to a Black Hills Ranch: O'Brien, Dan: 9780375761393: Amazon.com: Books
For twenty years Dan O’Brien struggled to make ends meet on his cattle ranch in South Dakota. But when a neighbor invited him to lend a hand at the annual buffalo roundup, O’Brien was inspired to convert his own ranch, the Broken Heart, to buffalo. Starting with thirteen calves, “short-necked, go...
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Amazon.com: Principles of Great Traders eBook : Coyle, George: Kindle Store
Amazon.com: Principles of Great Traders eBook : Coyle, George: Kindle Store
Principles of Great Traders summarizes the consistent principles among many of the greatest traders of the past 100+ years in their own words. This book is intended to provide early education on what works in trading to neophytes while also acting as a lifelong reference manual for experienced tr...
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Deep Freewriting: How to Masterfully Navigate the Creative Flow - Kindle edition by Webber, Stephen Lloyd. Reference Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.
Deep Freewriting: How to Masterfully Navigate the Creative Flow - Kindle edition by Webber, Stephen Lloyd. Reference Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.
Deep Freewriting: How to Masterfully Navigate the Creative Flow - Kindle edition by Webber, Stephen Lloyd. Download it once and read it on your Kindle device, PC, phones or tablets. Use features like bookmarks, note taking and highlighting while reading Deep Freewriting: How to Masterfully Navigate the Creative Flow.
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Abundance: Klein, Ezra, Thompson, Derek: 9781668023488: Amazon.com: Books
Abundance: Klein, Ezra, Thompson, Derek: 9781668023488: Amazon.com: Books
To trace the history of the twenty-first century so far is to trace a history of unaffordability and shortage. After years of refusing to build sufficient housing, America has a national housing crisis. After years of limiting immigration, we don’t have enough workers. Despite dec...
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Crisis Engineering: Time-Tested Tools for Turning Chaos into Clarity: Nitze, Marina, Weaver, Matthew, Dickerson, Mikey: 9780306836862: Amazon.com: Books
Crisis Engineering: Time-Tested Tools for Turning Chaos into Clarity: Nitze, Marina, Weaver, Matthew, Dickerson, Mikey: 9780306836862: Amazon.com: Books
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Crisis Engineering: Time-Tested Tools for Turning Chaos into Clarity: Nitze, Marina, Weaver, Matthew, Dickerson, Mikey: 9780306836862: Amazon.com: Books
Amazon.com: The Stimulated Mind: Future-Proof Your Brain from Dementia and Stay Sharp at Any Age: 9780593797815: Wood, Dr. Tommy: Books
Amazon.com: The Stimulated Mind: Future-Proof Your Brain from Dementia and Stay Sharp at Any Age: 9780593797815: Wood, Dr. Tommy: Books
The most important part of the body, especially as we age, is our brain. So why aren’t we taking the health of our brain as seriously as our heart and achy joints, particularly when people are struggling to focus every day, and dementia and Alzheimer’s cases continue to rise? In Dr. Tommy W...
The Stimulated Mind: Future-Proof Your Brain from Dementia and Stay Sharp at Any Age
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How Great Ideas Happen: The Hidden Steps Behind Breakthrough Success: George Newman: 9781668101377: Amazon.com: Books
How Great Ideas Happen: The Hidden Steps Behind Breakthrough Success: George Newman: 9781668101377: Amazon.com: Books
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AI for Good: How Real People Are Using Artificial Intelligence to Fix Things That Matter: Tyrangiel, Josh: 9781668082508: Amazon.com: Books
AI for Good: How Real People Are Using Artificial Intelligence to Fix Things That Matter: Tyrangiel, Josh: 9781668082508: Amazon.com: Books
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AI for Good: How Real People Are Using Artificial Intelligence to Fix Things That Matter: Tyrangiel, Josh: 9781668082508: Amazon.com: Books
Amazon.com: Are You Mad at Me?: How to Stop Focusing on What Others Think and Start Living for You: 9781668082461: Josephson, Meg: Books
Amazon.com: Are You Mad at Me?: How to Stop Focusing on What Others Think and Start Living for You: 9781668082461: Josephson, Meg: Books
* Are you constantly worried about what people think of you—if they like you, if they’re mad at you? Do you overextend yourself, avoid conflict, or find yourself over-apologizing, only to feel resentful afterward? In her “instant self-help classic” (Ada Calhoun, bestselling ...
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X 上的 Podcast Notes 🗒️:“Nobel economists found being alone damages you more than losing $60,000. Yet we treat socializing like it's optional and making money like it's survival. We got it backwards: https://t.co/FVUYyAyVCx” / Twitter
X 上的 Podcast Notes 🗒️:“Nobel economists found being alone damages you more than losing $60,000. Yet we treat socializing like it's optional and making money like it's survival. We got it backwards: https://t.co/FVUYyAyVCx” / Twitter

X帖子引用诺贝尔经济学奖得主丹尼尔·卡尼曼和安格斯·迪顿的研究,指出独处对情感健康的损害超过损失约6万美元。 它批评现代社会将社交视为可选事项,却把赚钱当成生存必需,主张两者优先级可能被颠倒。 该观点源于两人2010年论文,显示低收入会显著加剧孤独、疾病等不幸带来的情感痛苦,强调社会连接对幸福的重要性。

X帖子引用诺贝尔经济学奖得主丹尼尔·卡尼曼和安格斯·迪顿的研究,指出独处对情感健康的损害超过损失约6万美元。它批评现代社会将社交视为可选事项,却把赚钱当成生存必需,主张两者优先级可能被颠倒。该观点源于两人2010年论文,显示低收入会显著加剧孤独、疾病等不幸带来的情感痛苦,强调社会连接对幸福的重要性。
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X 上的 Podcast Notes 🗒️:“Nobel economists found being alone damages you more than losing $60,000. Yet we treat socializing like it's optional and making money like it's survival. We got it backwards: https://t.co/FVUYyAyVCx” / Twitter
Maintenance of Everything: Part One: Brand, Stewart: 9781953953490: Amazon.com: Books
Maintenance of Everything: Part One: Brand, Stewart: 9781953953490: Amazon.com: Books
Maintenance is what keeps everything going. It’s what keeps life going. Yet it’s also easy to shirk or defer—until the thing breaks, the system falters, and everything stops. The apparent paradox is profound: Maintenance is absolutely necessary and maintenance is optional.  The first in a m...
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X 上的 Podcast Notes 🗒️:“Here are 10 quotes that prove why The Inner Game of Tennis is the ultimate performance psychology book: 1. "The player of the inner game comes to value the art of relaxed concentration above all other skills; he discovers a true basis for self-confidence; and he learns that the https://t.co/TXoLoJJqqG” / Twitter
X 上的 Podcast Notes 🗒️:“Here are 10 quotes that prove why The Inner Game of Tennis is the ultimate performance psychology book: 1. "The player of the inner game comes to value the art of relaxed concentration above all other skills; he discovers a true basis for self-confidence; and he learns that the https://t.co/TXoLoJJqqG” / Twitter

以下是 10 段名言,它们足以说明为什么《The Inner Game of Tennis(网球的内在游戏)》堪称终极的表现心理学经典:

“内在游戏的玩家,会把‘放松而专注的艺术’看得高于一切其他技巧;他会发现真正自信的基础;并明白,赢得任何比赛的秘诀,在于不要太过用力。”

“专注是至高的艺术,因为没有专注,任何艺术都无法达成;而有了专注,一切皆有可能。”

“当心神真正专注时,大脑里不会再有空间去想着身体表现得如何,更不会想着‘应该怎么做’。当一个人处于这种状态时,几乎没有什么会妨碍他充分发挥自己的表现力、学习力与享受能力。”

“问题不在于我不知道该怎么做,而在于——我并没有去做那些我明明知道该做的事!”

“可是谁说,一个人的价值要靠他把事情做得多好来衡量?更进一步,谁又说人本身就应该被衡量?人的价值,无法靠表现,或任何人为标准来定义。”

“让心安静下来,意味着减少思考、计算、评判、担忧、恐惧、期待、勉强、懊悔、控制、紧张与分心。”

“胜利,是克服障碍以达成目标。但胜利的价值,只取决于那个目标本身的价值。有时,过程本身比最后的胜利更加值得回味。”

“当一个人克服了竞争中常见的心理障碍后,他会发现一种真正想赢的意志。这种意志能释放出全部能量,而且不会因为失败而灰心。”

“在巅峰状态下,心智不会像一个独立的声音那样,不断告诉你该怎么做,或批评你做得如何。它是安静的;你处于一种完整统一的状态,行动像河流一样自然流动。”

“人是会思考的芦苇,但人类最伟大的作品,往往诞生于不再计算、不再思虑的时候。我们必须重新找回一种‘孩童般的状态’。”

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X 上的 Podcast Notes 🗒️:“You don't even have to look at them for it to work. Memory researcher Larry Squire told Huberman: put photos of good memories on your wall. Just walking past them primes your unconscious mind toward the positive. Paul Conti called it controlling the climate inside yourself. https://t.co/rqwumd06yY” / X
X 上的 Podcast Notes 🗒️:“You don't even have to look at them for it to work. Memory researcher Larry Squire told Huberman: put photos of good memories on your wall. Just walking past them primes your unconscious mind toward the positive. Paul Conti called it controlling the climate inside yourself. https://t.co/rqwumd06yY” / X

这段话核心在讲一种很“微环境化”的心理调节: 人的情绪状态,并不完全来自重大事件,而是来自日常中不断被重复强化的注意力方向。

它的逻辑可以拆成几层。


1. “你甚至不用看它们,它也会起作用”

这里的 “them” 指的是那些承载美好记忆的照片。

Larry Squire 的意思是:

即使你没有刻意停下来回忆, 只要这些照片存在于你的环境里——墙上、桌边、走廊——你的大脑会在无意识层面不断接收到“积极关联”。

因为大脑并不是只有“专注时”才在工作。 很多情绪和认知是背景运行的。

就像:

  • 一个阴暗凌乱的房间会让人莫名压抑
  • 长期听到争吵声会让人紧绷
  • 经常闻到童年食物的味道会让人安心

照片也是一种环境信号。

它在悄悄提醒你的神经系统:

“你曾经快乐过。”

“你有被爱过。”

“世界不只有压力。”


2. “控制你内在的气候”

Paul Conti 用了一个很好的比喻:

不是控制“天气”,而是控制“气候”。

天气 = 一时情绪 气候 = 长期心理基调

比如:

  • 今天被老板骂了 → 坏天气
  • 但你整体仍觉得人生有希望 → 气候稳定

相反:

  • 即使今天没出事
  • 但长期活在焦虑、警惕、自责中

那你的“内在气候”其实是阴冷的。

而人会慢慢变成自己长期心理气候的样子。


3. “大多数人其实在反向训练自己”

这是这段最锋利的地方。

作者说:

很多人没有意识到, 他们每天都在训练自己的大脑去寻找:

  • 危险
  • 问题
  • 不足
  • 羞耻
  • 威胁

比如:

  • 一醒来就看新闻
  • 总刷负面社交媒体
  • 一直想“我哪里不够好”
  • 总回忆失败
  • 工作环境里永远只有 KPI 和压力

久而久之,大脑会形成一种默认模式:

“世界是不安全的。”

“我需要一直警惕。”

这其实是在“制造恐惧气候”。


4. “照片把这种偏置翻转了”

人脑本来就有 negativity bias(负面偏向):

坏事比好事更容易被记住。

因为从进化角度:

  • 忘记危险 → 会死
  • 忘记快乐 → 不会死

所以大脑天然更敏感于负面。

而这些照片,相当于一种轻量级的“再校准”。

重点在于:

它不是刻意心理治疗。 不是坐下来深度反思。 不是强迫积极思考。

你只是:

  • 去厨房倒水
  • 经过走廊
  • 抬头一下

但你的大脑会被不断温和提醒:

“人生里还有温暖存在。”

这是一种非常低强度、但长期累积有效的心理塑形。


最后一句:

“You're not doing therapy. You're just walking to the kitchen.”

其实特别妙。

真正改变人的,很多时候不是轰轰烈烈的顿悟, 而是环境里那些长期、微弱、重复出现的信号。

你每天经过什么, 你反复看到什么, 你注意什么,

最后会慢慢决定:

你觉得世界是什么样子。

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X 上的 Podcast Notes 🗒️:“You don't even have to look at them for it to work. Memory researcher Larry Squire told Huberman: put photos of good memories on your wall. Just walking past them primes your unconscious mind toward the positive. Paul Conti called it controlling the climate inside yourself. https://t.co/rqwumd06yY” / X